Get low? Hell no! Anywhere you turn today, there is “grinding.” Any social gathering that promises to play music will have in its embrace some grinding. Even the church picnics are not spared the moment.
What is “grinding”? According to the Urban Dictionary, grinding is “when a girl is in front of a guy, and they’re dancing; her butt to his crotch. He places his hands over her hipbones and pulls her closer. The girl shakes her stuff and the guy enjoys it.”
Behind the backs of our “watchful” parents, in the basements of secret places, or at clubs, school entertainment floors, the dance moves of our generation feel vulgar and self-aware in its sexuality.
According to a psychologist, Grinding on the dance floor, booty shakin’ has overshadowed all other forms of dance on school campuses. We’re saturated by images in popular culture, music videos and advertising campaigns. Grinding is so ingrained in our culture that we don’t stop to question it.
Students arrive as first years on campuses willing to be just bodies pressed up against anonymous bodies, moving in ways that would make one cringe. Do you really want to be someone’s “Miss New Booty?”
Since grinding has become socially acceptable, we overlook the fact that it is non-consensual. Long time ago, decent men ask women if they’d “care to dance”- there would be an introduction, followed by an invitation and a mutual understanding that both parties were willing partners. However with grinding, anyone standing on the dance floor is fair game.
Must we live in a society where somebody can rub their “boner” on your buttocks without even asking? With every dance Floor encounter, we fall further from engaging each other in a meaningful way.
More often than not, you don’t even face your dance partner. Did you manage to catch their last name…let alone their first? And though you might think you look damn hot, trust me, you look all kinds of stupid.
It’s amazing if you stand afar and observe the movements on the dance floor. You don’t see anyone doing anything with their hands and feet. All you see is a swinging back and forth movements.
Shaking your bottocks in your target’s general pelvic area can be thrilling, but would you do it in a more sterile lightening in front of your parents? No, you wouldn’t. Why has the “doggy style” dancing become so public, so omnipresent and cool?
I believe there should be a form of respect and dignity even in dancing. So the next time someone approaches you from behind, think twice: do I really want this person’s pelvis on my buttocks?
Maintain your dignity: invitation before GRINDING!